5 Rules from the Art of Letting Go That Boost Your Happiness
In our result-driven world full of stress and disappointments.
In life, we often experience difficulties, things that halt our happiness — a constant cycle of stress and disappointments because we’re living the wrong way.
With the Art of Letting Go, you will be guided into a lifestyle that helps you break free of these limitations.
In this article, I’ll share with you 5 rules of the Art of Letting Go that will help you boost your happiness.
1 — Let things change
Things change, all the time.
It’s not a bad thing necessarily, but we humans can get quite stressed about tiny and big changes. The world is constantly changing for the good and the bad.
If you’re constantly worrying about possible changes, you’ll never be at peace. At least, I’m not.
So what can you do to stress just a little bit less?
Try to let go. The Art of Letting Go can’t stress enough how important it is to just let go.
That’s not as easy as it sounds.
You’re constantly thinking about stuff and you can’t always avoid doing these self-destructive things.
But here’s a little trick.
Our brains work like a one-way road and we tend to keep thinking about the things we already think of. If you’re able to think in a negative stream only, you should try bending it to something you want to think about.
Something positive.
Just give it a try and start imagining a positive image of your future, what do you want to achieve?
Where do you want to go?
Once you start trying this in the real world you’ll see your brain wants to keep going in this positive flow of thoughts.
And then, you can let go.
2 — Saying sorry and forgive
Bad things happen and people make mistakes.
That’s just how life goes. Nothing wrong with that, but ultimately, you want to forgive them. The same goes the other way around, if you say sorry for something that you messed up, you expect people to forgive you.
A very important aspect of the Art of Letting Go, is that when you keep bottling up a grudge, you will not be at peace.
Just forgive, and let it go.
But sometimes it’s not so easy to forgive someone. They could have done something unforgivable.
But still, keeping a grudge doesn’t help you either.
Try to forgive.
Now, a different scenario, even more difficult: forgiving yourself. Most people have a lot of trouble with forgiving themselves for mistakes they made in the past.
But remember that the past is where it belongs, behind you. It’s now up to you to let go and move forward.
You can’t continue without forgiving yourself properly. It’s freeing to do so, don’t keep blaming yourself for your past mistakes.
3 — Be grateful and thankful
Life is a divine given.
The chance that you were born out of millions and billions of others that weren’t born is so small.
Try to be grateful for life.
You should be happy that you can breathe the fresh air in the morning, feel, live, experience love, and see the beauty of the world.
Being happy with what you have allows you to let go of all the things that aren’t important. Of course, things like finance, housing, school, work, and everything necessary for a good life are important.
But, there are moments where you should be able to briefly forget about them.
Go outside, enjoy the sun, stare into the sky, and look at the clouds drifting away.
Be grateful for being alive.
Not only these primary things in life are worth living for. Also, the smaller things that other people give you. The love of your parents, your partner, your pets even.
Be grateful, and thankful.
Write it down, journal, and you can read back about the things you were grateful for on days you’re having a tough time.
It works everything to put these things into perspective.
And just let go.
4 — Know when to say no
Are you a people-pleaser?
Stop doing that. It’s ruining your life and you are not applying the Art of Letting Go here.
I don’t mean saying no to everything — that will ruin you in another way. But it’s okay to put yourself first sometimes.
You’re worth more than you think sometimes.
It’s your life, so start living for yourself. If you are living for other people, why are you living at all? If you value yourself and your life you should start saying no to the things that don’t fundamentally benefit you.
Take care of yourself. Mentally and physically. Know when to take a break and stop when you have to.
It’s okay to be tired, you shouldn’t be judged for that.
You’re capable of much more when you’re completely fit and happy than when you’re overworked and almost burnt out.
Listen to your body.
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5 — Don’t worry about the end
We live in a results-driven society.
I hate that.
We’re constantly doing things for the sake of results and we’re obsessed with it.
Money
School
Career
You name them.
Wouldn’t it be much better if we lived following a philosophy that centered on experience instead of results?
You’d always be motivated because you’re getting the best experience, regardless of the results and it also teaches you that some things are out of your hands.
The Art of Letting Go teaches you to go in blindly and just experience it as if the outcome doesn’t matter — you’d be much more comfortable and productive than when you’re put under pressure to perform.
Just let it go and try your best.
Final thoughts
So when we take a look at what’s needed to live according to The Art of Letting Go, there’s a lot of work to do.
But you now know these things that can help you to let go.
Allow things to change and stop worrying about them
Saying sorry and forgiving yourself and other people, even if it’s difficult
Being grateful for the things we have and the life you’re living
Know yourself, value yourself, and learn to say no
Don’t worry about results, live an experience
Practicing these things in real life will help you to regain and retain your happiness. Don’t forget to apply them and you’re ready to let go.